Taking a Meaningful Inventory of Your Friendships
Loneliness is one of those conditions that is at the root of so much of our suffering. Human beings are designed to live in community, and so when we feel disconnected and apart from others our systems don't tolerate it well.
Loneliness is born from the illusion that we are separate.
When indeed, we are all connected in ways our brains can't begin to fathom. Regardless, believing that we are separate and alone, our systems can respond with anxiety, depression, stress, and a host of other m…
How Sticky types get Unstuck!
Do you ever get stuck, like really stuck? Where you just can’t get your body - your energy - UP in order to take any action beyond the “must dos” in your life? It can feel like paralysis. You know that you should take some action, little or big, but you just can’t break the stasis.
Not everyone will relate to this experience. It belongs to a subset of us who are “centered” in a way which inclines us to get stuck in a thinking and feeling cycle. To be sure you are part of this subset (with me)…
Finding Calm One Note at a Time
We can all find ourselves in moments of frenzy.
This morning I caught myself loading the dishwasher WHILE tucking in my shirt. 😵💫
Our frenzy isn't always visible on the outside but is certainly still felt inside. It's even possible (and common in the clients I see) for the inner frenzy to lack any cause at all. It's just there, brewing inside.
Whether your inner experience is one of high stress and anxiety, deep turmoil and depression or just generally feeling "off", your nervous system n…
Let plants take care of YOU ❤️🌿
In times of distress I head to “nature”, or rather, to my house plants! 🤓🌿
If you are feeling out of sorts, or that the world is just too darn people-y right now... then seek out your house plants for some grounding, centering, and calm.
Some folks say that they shouldn't get a plant because they don’t have a “green thumb” or because they don’t want to have to take care of something. But us plant nerds know that it’s the plants who are actually taking care of us! Besides their …
The Comfort of Your Own Touch
Here's a little tool I use a lot in my therapy room.
It has a very clinical-sounding name: bilateral stimulation. But no need to be intimidated - no electricity, probes or other devices are involved in this endeavor! Just your sweet little hands and your good ol' reliable breath. 🤲 🌬
Bilateral stimulation essentially means that you are stimulating both hemispheres of the brain, just as we do during REM sleep. In doing so, the reptilian brain that powers your fight/flight response becomes di…
5 Tips for Meeting the Obstacles on Your Spiritual Path
There’s a song I’ve sung to both my children called “We’re Going on a Bear Hunt”. It’s the story of this brave quest to find a bear – perhaps you can view the bear hunt as a metaphor in this case for enlightenment or some other spiritual goal.
In this preschool song there are MANY different obstacles on the path to this “bear”: swirling snowstorms, gooey mud, deep dark forests. Let’s say that each of these obstacles are the aspects of life that we feel threatened by, such as our wounds, our e…
7 Signs That You May Be Spiritually Bypassing
The road to a spiritual life is different for everyone, but spiritual bypassing is a potential hazard for all. Sometimes our spiritual journey can feel so slow-going that to think that we go too fast seems a far-fetched idea. Some spiritual awakenings can feel like a blissful catapult into a new mind-blowing paradigm where nothing feels the same anymore. Regardless of the route your journey takes, the skipping of important turns happens far more often than you might think.
It Takes an Inner Village: You and Your Many Parts
This morning I found myself in an unexpected argument with my husband. 😬
It was supposed to be a mildly mundane conversation about our schedule wherein I offer to take on more time with our children. But all of a sudden he's upset with me and I'm completely baffled.
I'm convinced that I'm acting from my pure and perfect True Self, that he's rejecting me and that something therefore must be wrong with him.
My conclusion? He's help-rejecting. He's not really listening. He's projecting onto …
Parenting Teens: A Spiritual Perspective
From the perspective of The Loveliness…
Before children are born into the world, their parents have made a spiritual agreement with them. We agree to come together as parent and child, and provide the experiences that we each seek to have in this lifetime. Often it’s a new experience we are each seeking. Perhaps it’s the first time we have been a parent (on Earth) for example, and we know it could be especially challenging. Before making their trip to incarnation, your child also has certai…
An invitation to dance from Archangel Gabriel
A friend of mine loaned me an Archangel oracle card deck a few weeks ago, and thereafter Archangel Gabrielle started “speaking” to me. Not only did she show up in a card spread, but also in a class I took, and in an image I created! By this third call I knew she was working with me.
Many of us call upon the archangels when faced with challenges and are looking for spiritual guidance to see us through. Do you ever wonder who the Archangels actually are and how they came to be so frequently cal…